Slow Sex Practice—SPECIAL EDITION: Polarity Work

𝗝𝗼𝗶𝗻 𝘂𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝗦𝗣𝗘𝗖𝗜𝗔𝗟 𝗦𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗦𝗲𝘅 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲—𝗣𝗼𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗘𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝘁 𝗞𝗼𝗸𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶 𝗶𝗻 𝗔𝗺𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗱𝗮𝗺, 𝗶𝗻𝗰𝗹𝘂𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗮𝗰𝗮𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗝𝗮𝗺.

We're going to energetically explore the concepts of CLAIM and SURRENDER.

Please take your time to read the full description below—to manage your expectations.



✨ 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗜𝗦 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗦𝗟𝗢𝗪 𝗦𝗘𝗫 𝗣𝗥𝗔𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗖𝗘?
A 3-hour in-person group experience to explore (and potentially) heal the way we relate and create a new culture of relating that is authentic, vulnerable, and healthy. In essence, relating is a form of art, and to become a master, we need to dedicate time and energy—we need to practice.

✨ 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗖𝗔𝗡 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗘𝗫𝗣𝗘𝗖𝗧?
Within a clear structure, our trauma-informed facilitator Anneke—supported by trauma-informed space holder—guides you into deep intimacy. The aim is to empower you, become fully present, connect with yourself. This way we can get in touch with our truest desires, authentic boundaries, and ultimately powerful sexual energy. This way, our encounters, whether with a stranger, friend, or life-long partner can transform, and even heal. 

In this special edition we explore deep polarity work within the context of the Slow Sex Practice. By focusing on the different polarities at play when we relate, we can:
- Explore the polarities of claim and surrender
- Recognising & breaking (unhealthy) patterns
- Deconditioning you sexual behavior
- Learning how to access our ‘full body yes’ and our ‘full body no’
- Setting and expressing boundaries compassionately (NVC) and honouring those of others
- Discovering what your desires are and expressing them
- Moving slowly without goal in mind
- Using communication as constructive tool
- Using your breath as guide and guardian
- Moving beyond the body to explore to energetic love, play and connection.
- Connecting from heart to heart
- Embracing vulnerability and rejection
- Freeing yourself (self-)judgement & shame
- Loads of fun, laughter, and of course, 



𝘐𝘔𝘗𝘖𝘙𝘛𝘈𝘕𝘛: 𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘳 𝘚𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘚𝘦𝘹 𝘗𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘮 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺. 𝘈𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘮𝘪𝘤𝘳𝘰-𝘥𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦.

Even though the title contains the word sex, the focus is on SLOW—just to calm your nerves :). Only by slowing the F down, you can access and listen to your most hidden sexual desires and most authentic boundaries to build a healthy and loving relationship with your body—your sacred temple and portal to immense pleasure, joy & creativity.

✨ 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧'𝗦 𝗙𝗟𝗢𝗪 𝗢𝗙 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗣𝗥𝗔𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗖𝗘?
🚪 ARRIVAL: We start and finish the Slow Sex Practice all together. Please, arrive 15 minutes before to give yourself time to settle in and we invite you to stay until the end.

👫 EXERCISES: After the guided meditation and breathwork to connect with yourself, we move into partner exercises, both energetic and hands-on. Each exercise is merely an invitation; you decide how far to go and can say 'no' anytime. You can explore variations and get naked, yet we always keep underwear on. Create the experience that feels right for you in each moment.

You are empowered to create the experience that is appropriate for yourself in that moment with that person.

Overall, we’ll learn to sloooow down, fine-tune our (sexual) energy, and go on a deep journey into healing intimacy with yourself and others.



🧡 LOVE JAM: For the remaining time, we’ll dive into a Love Jam—a free flowing sex positive container to put our teachings into practice. You repeat couple exercises, exchange massages, dance, journal, do yoga, or simply hang out with tea, snacks, and heartwarming conversations. We maintain an 'underpants on' policy throughout the jam. The space is held collectively, and everyone is responsible for their own experience. If you are new to X positive spaces, we recommend moving extra slowly."

🦋 CLOSING: We collectively close the experience in a (sharing) circle.

👁 AFTER: Remember, the Slow Sex Practice is a transformative, eye-opening, and healing experience designed for those longing to create a different culture of deep intimacy and authentic relating. Everybody is encouraged to apply the provided tools beyond the context of sexuality, integrating them into everyday life. It can transform your relationship. It can transform your life.

✨ 𝗔𝗕𝗢𝗨𝗧 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗦𝗟𝗢𝗪 𝗦𝗘𝗫 𝗠𝗢𝗩𝗘𝗠𝗘𝗡𝗧
The Slow Sex Movement is more than a practice, for us, it’s a lifestyle, and art form and even a form of activism that deeply connects us to ourselves, each other and nature, thus ending separation. For more info about the Slow Sex Movement, please visit: https://slowsex.me/

Find out more about our facilitator Anneke here: https://annekevanbokhoven.nl/tijdelijk/


✨ 𝗙𝗔𝗤:
- 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙪𝙢𝙖 𝙞𝙣𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙚𝙙? — Yes! Every Slow Sex facilitator is personally trained by Katjalisa, co-founder of the Slow Sex movement, and participates in a continuous mentorship program. This program focuses on trauma-information, mirroring blind spots, working with disowned parts, and holding each other accountable to serve the collective with integrity and care. To learn more about our values and how we take care, please read about our community care:
https://slowsex.me/community-care/
- 𝙄𝙨 𝙞𝙩 𝙤𝙥𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙜𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙚𝙭𝙪𝙖𝙡 𝙤𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣? — YES, absolutely!
- 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙗𝙚 𝙣𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙙? — Unless stated differently, we have a ‘underwear on’ policy during all events. There won't be any genital penetration happening at any point of the evening.
- 𝘿𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙎𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙎𝙚𝙭 𝙋𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙫𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙪𝙢𝙖 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠? — Slow Sex is a healing space. Even though our intention is not to actively dive into trauma work, some exercises might trigger past traumatic experiences. We ask you to get in touch with our team beforehand if you are aware of sexual traumas.
- 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝙄 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚? — You can totally come alone. If you come as a couple please discuss beforehand if you are open to share experiences with others and clarify the boundaries within your relationship.
- 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝙄 𝙙𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙚𝙧𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙚𝙨 𝙤𝙣𝙡𝙮 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙢𝙮 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙣𝙚𝙧? — Yes.
- 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙄 𝙙𝙤 𝙚𝙭𝙚𝙧𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙚𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙜𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧? Potentially, we invite you to explore beyond your gender preference and meet each other as beings to connect from heart to heart and go beyond initial preferences.
- 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝙄 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙖𝙙 𝙤𝙧 𝙙𝙚𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙? — Yes, please come as you are—grumpy, unsocial, totally unsexy, the Slow Sex Practice can help you to reconnect to yourself and shift your energy.
- 𝙄𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙖 𝙙𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙘𝙤𝙙𝙚? — No, you’re welcome to wear sexy clothes or show up in your pajamas. Most importantly, you should feel comfortable.
- 𝙎𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙄 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙗𝙚𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚? — Showering beforehand is appreciated. If you sweat a lot, bring a small towel. Please, avoid strong perfumes or deodorants.
- 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝙄 𝙢𝙚𝙚𝙩 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙖𝙩 𝙎𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙎𝙚𝙭? — The Slow Sex Practice isn’t a ‘pick up’ place.
It's about connecting with an open heart without specific intentions or goals. However, if you had a special moment with someone and want to meet up or just express gratitude—go ahead!
- 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙗𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙥𝙞𝙘𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙚𝙨 𝙤𝙧 𝙫𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙤𝙨 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙣? — No, the Slow Sex Practice is a phone-and picture-free space.
- 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙄 𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙚𝙞𝙫𝙚 (𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚) 𝙞𝙣𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚? — Yes, you'll receive a welcome email with event details beforehand, and a follow-up email with care instructions afterward. Your email address will be public unless you wish to to stay incognito. Please tell us.
- 𝙄 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙟𝙤𝙞𝙣, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙞𝙖𝙡 𝙙𝙞𝙛𝙛𝙞𝙘𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙨, 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙬𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙪𝙩? — Yes, we’re open to see how we can support each other.
- 𝘾𝙖𝙣 𝙄 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙧? — No, sorry, latecomers cannot join unless they have arranged it with the facilitator in advance and the group is informed.

✨ 𝗜𝗠𝗣𝗢𝗥𝗧𝗔𝗡𝗧!
Registration closes 2 hours before. Want to join last-minute? Check with in Anneke +31 623402196.

𝙒𝙚’𝙧𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙥𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙤𝙛 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜. 💕