Intimacy of Harm

When we relate to each other, it is inevitable that we will cause harm - this is simply a part of being human, being messy, and being conditioned by the societies we are parts of. Making mistakes is scary, Causing harm is painful. how can we transform moments of pain into moments of closeness?

In this workshop, we dive deeper into an exploration of the mechanisms that are activated within us when we cause harm. how can we be safe people when receiving feedback? how do we imagine accountability? and how can we forgive ourselves when we behave in imperfect and harmful ways?

We are carson and Ella. In our workshops, we dive deep into the nuances of consent through social relationships and create space for self exploration, providing embodied experiences to imagine new ways of relating.

carson (they/them, Amsterdam based):
carson is dedicated to making space to question our systems and trying to build resilience, community care and solidarity into the every day. Growing up in a polyamorous family and eagerly devouring all the critical theory they can get their hands on, their focus is in the unification of the political and the personal work, recognizing one cannot exist without the other. As the old slogan goes, the personal is indeed political - but the political is personal too!

Ella (they/them, Berlin based):
Ella is a bubbly and radically kind intimacy activist. They have fine tuned their ability to create safety and space in their workshops so that the societal armor can be left at the door. They love to play with words and are able to convey complex theory in simple, easy to grasp language. Their humor allows for playful engagement with heavy topics while always holding space for the depth of emotions.


We recommend you eat a nice meal before coming! We will have many breaks throughout the day and a longer, one-hour break for dinner. Please bring some (preferably vegan) food to share with everyone potluck style :)

Please reach out with access needs or any questions and concerns you may have around any of these topics to ella.carson.workshops@gmail.com.


Ticket Prices:
If everyone buys a €45 'I want to come!!' ticket, the costs of the event will be covered and we get paid minimum wage.
If everyone buys a €75 'I love this work! keep it up!!' ticket, it covers the costs and we can pay ourselves enough for this to be a sustainable job long-term.
If everyone (minimum 15 participants) buys a €25 low income tickets we cover the rent and will not get paid.

Please choose the option that feels right for you - no questions asked :)

If this is still out of reach for you, just email us at ella.carson.workshops@gmail.com and we will make sure you can come. No one is turned away for lack of funds. Also email us for a code to register for free in exachange for a cash donation. If you would like to support a low income ticket, send a donation to: https://ko-fi.com/elladoesworkshops

Can't wait!!