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When’s the last time you felt a F*ck Yes to something? How did it feel in your body? Often we settle for less than a Full Yes - especially in s*x - going along with something we don’t love, in order to stay safe. But what if you could feel safe and still get the thing you really want? The best way to get what you want? You have to ask!
In this workshop we, Jason and Sinsia, will offer exercises that explore exactly these themes. As our work is grounded in the Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin, the day will be highly experiential, gently paced and designed to help you make choices that work best for you.
There are many things that can get in the way of asking for what we want: maybe you don't really know what it is you want. Maybe you do notice desires and limits as they come up, but you feel like they don't matter that much. Maybe instead of asking for what you really want, you ask for what you think you should want. Or what you think you can get.
Many of us have been taught to prioritise other peoples' wants and needs over our own. As recovering people pleasers we can lose touch with what brings us satisfaction, leading to frustration, resentment and discontent. This might show up in our intimate lives, work, family, and other relationships.
How do you reconnect with your felt sense of what you want - coming not from your mind (and all its tricks), but from the deep wisdom of your body?
In this workshop we’ll help you get a felt sense of your Yes, your No, and your Maybe. How does it feel inside you when something is a Yes or a No? What comes up when you try to communicate that to another? How does it feel to receive a Yes or a No, and what meaning do you make of it?
This workshop will help you say No to things you don’t want, so that you can say a FULL YES to the things you do really want - that will bring you pleasure, joy, connection, and satisfaction.
❧ This event is for you if…
You want to connect with an embodied sense of your desires and limits
❤️ You want to have more fulfilling intimate encounters, grounded in embodied consent
🧡 You want to develop better communication skills around your desires and limits, in your intimate life and in other areas of your life
❧ What Will We Explore in this Workshop?
💛 Connecting with your inner, embodied sense of what you want and don’t want - how it feels to be a Yes, No, or Maybe
💚 Different ways of expressing your desires, limits, and boundaries
Ways to give and receive Yes’es and No’s
💙 Feeling your authentic desire - what do you really want, and where does your mind pull you out of your embodied desire?
💜 How it feels to get exactly the thing you want. How does your body respond when you can explore touch in a way that is safe and grounded in consent?
🖤 This workshop is not about attraction; it is about noticing desires and limits as they come up in the moment. In certain exercises you might ask for touch, and maybe even get it :)
While exploring all this we will keep our clothes on
❧ What are the benefits of building Embodied Consent skills?
🤍 Moving away from black and white yes/no thinking, to finding ease in navigating desires from moment-to-moment
More pleasure and erotic satisfaction by being able to ask for the things you really want
❤️ Feeling more agency in your s*xual interactions. Rather than simply going along with something you don’t love, being able to negotiate desires back to a Win-Win for both (or all) partners
🧡 More confidence in your erotic and other relationships
💛 Greater sense of ease when connecting with new and old partners
💚 Deeper trust in oneself
❧ Who is this for?
This workshop is particularly welcoming toward queer / LGBTQIA+ folks who fall anywhere under the umbrella of queerness. We welcome all genders, ages, bodies, and orientations. Both teachers identify as queer, and have extensive experience in working with queer people.
💙 Recovering people pleasers: do you feel stuck in having to say Yes to people? Or in going along with things that are not quite as you'd like them?
💜 All levels of experience: we invite anyone to come with a beginner’s mind: what can you learn about yourself and your patterns?
📅 When: November 26th, 10.30- 18.30
🗺️ Where: Amsterdam North (address on registration)
💵 Price: €120. For those on a low income, tickets are available at €95
❧ About Sinsia & Jason
Sinsia is a somatic sex coach who supports (mostly) queer people in creating the sex life of their choice. They specialise in shifting the focus from analysing to feeling, helping clients to integrate mind and body. She is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, which means they are trained to be body oriented, trauma informed and client led. They trained with Betty Martin at the School of Consent.
Sinsia worked as an escort for over six years before starting her coaching practice, an experience that informs and enriches their current work. She identifies as a queer, polyamorous, and kinky gender explorer and uses they and she pronouns (as demonstrated in this text :).
Jason King is a Sexological Bodyworker and somatic sex educator. He identifies as a gay and queer man. He is passionate about helping people expand their sense of what’s possible in their sex lives. Jason works with individuals and groups to manifest powerfully healing embodied experiences, build community, and embrace our erotic oneness.