Kink for Beginners

Curious to try bringing kink into your erotic play? Are you more dom, sub, both, neither? In this weekend workshop, you’ll get to explore taking power and surrendering in an approachable, playful, and deliciously s*xy way.

Kink can be a powerful gateway to pleasure, surrender, deep intimacy, and healing. But many of our mainstream depictions of kink fail to capture the essence of what makes kink so powerful - that the more safety and trust we create with our partners, the further we can explore to the edges of our desires.

While the world of kink is vast, this weekend will be an opportunity for you to explore several popular themes within the kink umbrella. You’ll practice crafting and playing out kink scenes, exploring themes such as:

❧ Sensation play (exploring new/different sensations on the body)
❧ Power dynamics/power exchange (also known as Dominance and Submission)
❧ Ropes and light bondage
❧ Impact play (such as light spanking or using impact tools)

It will be a gentle yet s*xy introduction to kinky ways to play, so you can discover what turns you on and what you want to explore further. We’ll bring all the kinky toys and tools you need to craft delicious kink scenes, while supporting you to build a container of safety so that you can fully enjoy your experience.

With our focus on building safety and trust, we use The Wheel of Consent by Dr. Betty Martin as a framework to practice feeling your desire as it arises in your body. How do you tell the difference between a desire, a longing, curiosity, and willingness? Can you savor how it feels to want something? Or to encounter a limit?

You’ll practice communicating your desires, limits and boundaries with others, noticing what arises in you when you give and receive Yes’s and No’s. You’ll be supported to break free of unconscious patterns of people pleasing or subtly overstepping your and/or other’s boundaries.

With the skills and experiences you gain in this workshop, you’ll have a solid foundation to dive deeper into kinky scenes with new or established partners, knowing you can confidently navigate your own desires, limits, and boundaries, and opening up to new worlds of pleasure and possibility.

⫸ This event is for you if…

❧ You’re new to kink and want to begin exploring with safety and a deep respect for your limits
❧ You’re curious about new aspects of the kink and BDSM umbrellas and want a space to try many different ways of playing
❧ You want to spice up your erotic life by bringing in new energies and practices such as playing with power or new sensations
❧ You want to become more skillful at having difficult conversations around desires, limits and boundaries
❧ You want to embark on your kink journey rooted in a sense of safety and consent, and being able to discuss your curiosities, desires, boundaries and limits
❧ You want to move beyond your mind’s ideas of what you should/shouldn’t want, and start feeling in an embodied way your desires and limits

⫸ What Will We Explore in this Workshop?

❧ Connecting with your inner, embodied sense of what you want and don’t want in a kink scene - how it feels to be a Yes, No, or Maybe
❧ Different ways of expressing your desires, limits, and boundaries
❧ Ways to give and receive Yes’es and No’s
❧ Feeling your authentic desire - what do you really want, and where does your mind pull you out of your embodied desire?
❧ You will get to design and play out mini-scenes based on kinky themes such as sensation play, power dynamics/power exchange, ropes and light bondage, and impact play

Our exercises are containers for you to explore kinky themes based on your authentic desires. We’ll set the parameters and you get to design a scene with your partner based on those themes.

There may be practices where you may choose to take off clothes. Nudity is never required.

There may be practices where you get to touch and be touched by your exercise partner(s). All touch in this workshop is optional, and grounded in all participant’s consent.


⫸ What are the benefits of building Embodied Kinky Consent skills?

❧ Deeper trust in oneself and in one’s partner(s)
❧ More pleasure and erotic satisfaction by being able to ask for the things you really want
❧ Feeling more agency in your kinky and s*xual interactions. Rather than simply going along with something you don’t love, being able to negotiate desires back to a Win-Win for both (or all) partners
❧ More confidence in your erotic and other relationships
❧ Greater sense of ease when connecting with new and old partners

⫸ Who is this for?

❧ This workshop is particularly welcoming toward queer / LGBTQIA+ folks who fall anywhere under the umbrella of queerness. We welcome all genders, ages, bodies, and orientations. Both teachers identify as queer, and have extensive experience in working with queer people.
❧ All levels of kink experience: we invite anyone to come with a beginner’s mind: what can you learn about yourself and where can you become more skillful?
You can come to the workshop with your play partner(s) or as an individual

⫸ Practicalities

❧ When: December 14-15th, 10.30 - 18.30 both days.
❧ This weekend is not residential. If you’re not from Amsterdam, there are numerous hotels and hostels in the area around the venue.
❧ Where: Amsterdam North (address on registration)

⫸ What Previous Participants Are Saying:

❧ “Sinsia and Jason provide simple yet really effective exercises which help me navigate my own boundaries. It is so helpful to reflect on what I want and what I am willing to and how that feels in my body. Sinsia and Jason are very supportive and they create a space where I could safely explore together with others.”
❧ “Jason and Sinsia work really well together! They created a safe space quite quickly, and I felt there was space for a lot of different things and experiences to happen. We got to practice feeling our desires and our limits - for example by choosing to participate in practices or not. But they also encouraged us to try out something new or exciting.”

⫸ About Sinsia & Jason

❧ Sinsia is a somatic sex coach who supports (mostly) queer people in creating the sex life of their choice. They specialise in shifting the focus from analysing to feeling, helping clients to integrate mind and body. She is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, which means they are trained to be body oriented, trauma informed and client led. They trained with Betty Martin at the School of Consent.
Sinsia worked as an escort specialising in kink for over six years before starting her coaching practice, an experience that informs and enriches their current work. She identifies as a queer, polyamorous, and kinky gender explorer and uses they and she pronouns (as demonstrated in this text :).
🌎 www.thequeersexcoach.com
👋 Instagram: @Sinsia.TheQueerSexCoach

❧ Jason King is a Sexological Bodyworker and somatic sex educator. He identifies as a gay and queer man. He is passionate about helping people expand their sense of what’s possible in their sex lives. Jason works with individuals and groups to manifest powerfully healing embodied experiences, build community, and embrace our erotic oneness.
Jason has also trained with the School of Consent, in addition to deep dives into Tantric practices, massage and rituals for gay/bi/queer men.
🌎 www.embodiederos.org
👋 Instagram: @embodied_eros