Poly Stories | Mono Responses to Poly Identity

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ENM Storytelling Evenings | Treehouse NDSM (Amsterdam North)

THEME OF THIS EVENING: MONO RESPONSES TO POLY IDENTITY
The dream: you’re at a wedding with your +2, having polite and pleasant conversation at the
table, looking through the flower piece. The reality: you’re at a church service and introduce
your new partner to another member - explaining that no, you’ve not broken up with your
anchor partner. Worst-case scenario: your go-to gossip friend suddenly goes silent on the
phone after you tell them about your Friday night kiss, before judging the saliva sharing
agreement in your relationship.

As we all know, being polyamourous or ethically non-monogamous comes with its
(sometimes heartbreaking) challenges. While we may have our self-designed frameworks,
love and sexplorations, a broader world with sceptical co-workers, slut-shaming loved ones
and religious or community guidelines surrounds us. A world wherein the default mode is still
monogamy.

So, what do we do? Do we see an opportunity to de-stigmatise ENM when met with
misunderstanding, challenge the norm by openly and unapologetically showing our poly
identity, or keep our choices undisclosed, hidden away from prejudice? When people
eventually do find out, how do we handle their response?

THIS IS FOR YOU WHEN
This evening is for anyone: whether you’re just starting out or already experienced in non-monogamy/open relationships/polyamory.

PRACTICAL INFO
Wednesday Sept 23st, 2026
• 19:00 doors open, program 19:30 – 21:30
• Location: Treehouse NDSM, Amsterdam North
• Language: English

Do you not have that much budget and would like to come? Then we can figure something out. Send me a message.

POLY STORIES
Poly Stories invites you in the exploration of the wondrous world of non-monogamy through personal storytelling: together navigating the edges and unpacking (moral) dilemmas. This evening is for everyone with a curiousity in the free shapes of love.

• Expect inspiring stories with Q&A
• The sharing of experiences and inspiration
• Love's wisdom to take home

Each evening revolves around a central theme. We co-create the night together. There is space to talk to others, ask questions and bring in your own experiences.

WANT TO SHARE A STORY YOURSELF?
Would you like to share a story this evening or one of the upcoming ones?
Send an email to suzanne@suzanneallegonda.nl

ABOUT THE ORGANIZER
Suzanne Allegonda is a relationship therapist specialized in non-monogamy. She has always been fascinated by human thinking and behavior. In her private practice she focuses on working with individuals and couples in ENM relationships. Over the past years, she has organized various lectures and workshops where philosophy, self-reflection and love and intimacy meet.